March 11th, 2010
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I have a boyfriend and he is friends with his ex wife. When she called on the phone yesterday i told her not to call anymore but she still keeps calling. She called him on a cell phone that i have given him and she told him that she had a cd to give to him so he went over to her apartment and he told me he spent 45 minutes with her then left to go to the supermarket. When he got home he was all mad at me for blowing up at her, he told me she complained to him about it. We had a huge arguement. Then iasked him back for the cell phone i had given him. But he told me that he will always remain friends with her and even after all the times i told her to stop interfering she still calls him. We have applied for housing in two different towns and i hope we get another apartment by next year. I have been waiting two years on one housing list and we just applied for another housing this year. They never had any kids together but he still insists on being friends with her. So im gonna try my best to cope with it for now but im hoping we will get a call from housing next year. He treats me real good and this past July we got engaged I really love him and he loves me and i do not want to end this relationship. Actually this is the first relationship i ever had in my life i met him when i was 39 and now im 40. Can someone give me some advice?you shoudl be patient until you move somewhere else. if they seperated less than a year, then it is normal for them to meet more often. most ex wives meet each other actually. it is normal, that doesn't mean they will come together. however sometimes one of the parts is still in love to the other one and tries to flirt with her/him. if you feel insecure, you shoudl talk abotu her with your partner. you of course respect to his ex relaitonships, but his or your past should not interfere your current relationship. if you think she finds excuses all the time to meet him, then talk this with your partner. if he needs to give a decision between you and her , then let him to give this decision and make things clear. i hope you get rid of her as soon as possible. i tried to write in rational way, but if i were you, i woudl be dead jealous. I think that u should investigate to see if they are going back together again and decide if u should let them be friends with each other.Is that OK with u?Has she ever disrespected you in any way? (Meaning you know how we women are...would call all hours of the night....sometimes every minute.....knowing fully well he is at home with his GF) Dropping hints as if they were still together? If not then it's cool.....
Is he is giving you the respect you deserve? Would you prefer if you did not know he and his ex were still friends and you found out by accident? That would have been something huh? It seems like he is honest enough because he told you when he went there and how long he stayed..you must commend him for his honesty. Don't back him into a corner where you are forcing him to lie or make a choice...Has to be a good reason why they are still friends....remember they shared a life together even though they had no kids you need to talk to him and try to understand their relationship...Why not try a different approach? Why not try to be her friend as well...you never know....might not be so bad...you just might like her...the problem is not you two is the man he has to un derstand that woman get insucer and that what he does trully does in fact effect how much more inc=sucre you fel. good luck darling but you should not have blown up at ypu and those two dont need to be friends any more. y would a man keep his old wacth unless he is still using it. not to infer hes cheating but i mean what else if yopu trust him but they dont need to see eachother.Sweety I understand your situation and From this I know u really love him but you of to look at the situation from both side and its obvious that both of them are still together, besides, maybe he's just confuse and want both of you and don't want to loose any and she too can still love him and want to be with him too, well u need to put a stop to it before it go any further and tell him its either you are his Ex, because that was the past and just history now so they shouldn't been seen each other so often, however explain and let him know that your hurt and jealous whenever he communicate with her and see if he'll stop, on the other hand if he does stop just communicate with your Ex also and let him see how it feel, I wish you all the best hun and just do what I said, hence I know how ur feel and its so hard on us female when we are in love gosh! we always tend to forgive when they do stupid things to hurt us. U can reply if you want to.Hi, explain to him how you really feel, without giving him a feeling of being under pressure.
Find out what kind of â friendshipâ it is. Maybe you donâ t like it but that is all that is to it, there is no sex involved and he is not cheating on you.
Martin
you're current behaviour will drive him away, not closer to you. Deal with your insecurities. If it's not the ex wife it'll be a girl in a super market, someone at his work etc that you will obsess about. Get yourself together, get confident, know your own self worth and that if he ever leaves you there are plenty of fish in the sea. I'm not suggesting that will happen but you should negotiate from a position of strength not weakness. interesting.one side i thing she is a B... and she is trying to be innocent and he is a stupid for putting her "in first place" ,other side i think u should talk to him and tell him that this is annoying u,be nice,be innocent (u this time :p )and ask him to tell u whats the report between them,if there is smth u should know..only let him see u r calm and ready to listen and not to argue but if he starts telling bullshit cut it out and i dont know.."leave him"??#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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